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But, if you are gay, struggling with your spirituality, sexuality, or life in general, or you sincerely desire to understand and assist those who do, then it is my sincere prayer you find hope, peace and Love through this ministry. Feel free to contact me, too.
umpty Dumpty is an egg right? I mean, after all, we've all been taught that from our childhood. For years and years, this Mother's Goose rhyme has been interpreted as meaning an egg, and was immortalized as such in Lewis Carroll's, Through the Looking Glass. But look at the text; it never says Humpty is an egg.
I am sure many of you, right now, are either perplexed, confused, or willing to argue with all your soul that Humpty is an egg, but the text is plain to read. It is so easy to believe something to be a certain way because that's the way it's always been, always interpreted that way, or because we trust those who teach us; we never think to question, or seek, or research the answer for ourselves.
Gay (homosexual) Christians are like Humpty Dumpty. We've been taught Gay Christians don't or can't exist, they are broken, fallen. We've been taught it's impossible for Humpty to be anything but an egg, or in this case, a heterosexual Christian. But, Gay Christians do exist, and unlike the real Humpty, they are put back together, now unbroken, healed, accepted and able to be themselves fully, loved and blessed by their Righteous King, Jesus Christ.
The Lord does not permit me to engage in spiritual debates. I've found spiritual debates often leads to reducing our faith from a living relationship with God to arguments over commas and periods, laws and regulations, to mere religion. I leave debating to others who are called to do such; my calling is to serve, Love, and lay down my life for the betterment of others. If it is your desire to debate this topic you shall be sadly disappointed, for I shall only reply by "washing your feet."
We are called to wash the feet of even those who will not wash our feet.
lease take the time to actually read what I write, before you assume what I think or believe, teach or preach a certain way; that's only courteous, I think. You might be surprised at what a Gay Christian thinks and believes.
Whatever your beliefs on homosexuality, gays and lesbians, I challenge you to befriend and serve all people as Christ did, never condone rejection, negativity, or violence against anyone nor be the cause of it; give a cup of cold water when you see someone thirst, and allow anyone to wash your feet. Christ commands us to unconditionally Love all people, even those we do not understand. How we walk in Christ brings to light the true depth of our knowledge and understanding of Christ and His Law of Love, and the level of relationship towards Him and other people.
The measure of Love we have for the person for whom we care the least is the same measure of Love we have for God.
This website is designed to provide uplifting, positive information, support, Love, encouragement and affirmation to gays and lesbians who seek Christ, and who desire spiritual guidance, growth, and maturity through Jesus Christ. Further, it is designed to provide the Gay Christian with wisdom, encouragement, insight, counseling, Love, support and practical experiences on how to live the Christian life. Lastly, it is here for people who are trying to love and support such persons.
started this website by accident. I never had an "agenda," nor did I desire to "prove something" or "be someone." I'm a librarian and former minister. Years ago, the State Library suggested librarians get involved in Internet and have websites. This dated back to the beginnings of the Internet. I posted a single page, telling about myself, the beginnings of what is now the Autobiography page. At the time, I didn't know anything about how to write web pages; I bought a book and learned. Also, I didn't know anything about "search engines," indexes of information on the Internet.
I wrote freely and honestly about my life. My website got picked up by several search engines, and I began to receive e-mail from people. I replied to every letter. I began to add pages about different issues and topics relating to being a gay or lesbian Christian, and with time this website, as you see it now, was born. Of course, the more I expanded it, the more it got used.
At the same time, I was busy quietly living my life. I didn't realize my website had grown so much until I began to notice my website being featured more and more by search engines as the leading site on this topic, and I was getting more and more e-mail.
Then my website was featured on CNN (Cable News Network). I began to get requests from newspapers, radio and television for my views, and editorials on a wide range of "hot topics about gays" in the news. Because of my conservative views, and my surprising twist on a lot of issues, I've been a surprise to both the gay and the straight communities. The media, and those with "agendas" always want excitement, arguments, hot discussions and debate, they want people who are "interesting." I just don't fit those catagories.
I am asked occasionally to debate on radio or in person, etc. I think it doesn't bring people closer to the Lord and each other, but breeds division. If I do appear, either in some newspaper, radio or television interviews or editorials, etc., it is only if I feel it contributes to the edification and growth of people and their relationship with Jesus. I've written a few articles, editorials and the like, as well as appeared in person for some things, but every time I seem to surprise people by my responses. I think they expect me to be defensive, willing to debate or argue, etc. Instead, I just listen, love, and wash a lot of feet.
When my website began years ago, there was little on the Internet about being gay and Christian, or even being gay in a positive way. I was swamped with e-mail from people that were hurting, questioning, wounded, searching. Now, these many years later, there are many websites available, and I am glad they are there. This website still remains unique, in it's extensive literary length, it's Articles on various topics, and the personal touch it has through contact with me.
I got the nickname "Gay Ann Landers of Internet" because of all the e-mail I answer and the advice I give out. I was as surprised as anyone by the title. I don't think of myself as this, just one guy listening, trying to help.
The final irony was when I learned I was labeled by various social/political organizations as one of the most "dangerous homosexuals in the United States of America." Why? Because I am not at all like the "stereotypes" of what most people believe or want gay people to be. Why? Because I am so "boringly normal;" I love Jesus, and embrace the Christian "lifestyle."
I always want this website/ministry to contribute to the edification and growth of people and their relationship with Jesus. How is your relationship with Jesus today?
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