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To God, being gay is a non-issue. It only becomes an issue when it is out of balance, if it is seen exclusive to the rest of what makes you who you are, when it operates outside of Christ's Law of Love. It is an issue to some people because of the inability to see diversity within God's creation, or because of prejudices, stereotypes, misinformation, fear, denial, self-hatred or insecurities.
Being gay means being you, being yourself, and that is really quite mundane, dull and boringly normal. It means being true to yourself, your sexuality, your life and world, and your God. So being out means being both the boringly normal you that you are, and being the special person that you are, too.
When you first come out, you seek out those who are similar; you desire connection, support and reinforcement. You want to make connections with other gays and lesbians; this is totally normal and healthy. But, there comes a time, for those who embrace growth and maturity, when you both desire and need to return to the rest of society and become a part of it, too. In the rest of society, and in the rest of the world is where I think Christ desires us to finally find ourselves.
Gays and lesbians who never move on beyond just coming out get trapped in a world that gets its identity in sexuality. They decorate their lives with rainbow flags and stickers, embrace a vocal minority who try to "look" or "act" gay, feel like they have to think and act like the "group" to be really gay. It's fun to be around other gay people, but sadly many gay people make the same mistake many Christians make.
Before a person became a Christian most of his friends were non-Christian, but once he became a Christian, as time passed, he drifts away from his original friends, and ends up only having Christian friends, and is completely surrounded and immersed in a "Christian world." Some Christians pull away from society, isolate themselves with only other Christians of similar beliefs and values. The result is the rest of society suffers from their lack of interaction; how can a sick world be healed if the healers as in hiding? Such should not be the case, because Christ said we are to live in the world, just not be corrupted by it.
This is similar with being gay; you should abide in the greater world, being yourself without compromise. You should walk in your sexuality wherever you are, and within the greater social whole, not separating yourself, associating and living around only those of like mind and persuasion. In your interaction with other people, you witness to them the truth about the boringly normalness of being gay, and in so doing you elevate both society and yourself. Living as a positive example of someone who is gay or lesbian, you help dispel the stereotypes, misinformation, and mistaken beliefs of other people about what it means to be gay.
fter coming out internally and externally, have fun, explore your life, make friends and connections, learn, expand and grow. Grow and mature in your self-confidence and self-esteem, and become a mentor to other gay and lesbian people coming out, too. But, at the same time, do not neglect the world around you; people need you, both gay and straight.
Sharing your sexuality is sharing that which is but a very small part of who you are, a non-issue. Love compels you to be yourself, not be someone you are not. You do not compromise self for acceptance. But, neither do you broadcast to everyone your business. You share your sexuality when it is important. When you abide in the larger society and community, living or working within it, being yourself, tempering yourself around other people, and walking openly in your sexuality without flaunting it, then you have found life beyond coming out.
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